Auditorium Majano
Monday, March 2
20.15
Evening Hours of training on the subject of rules, discipline and accountability
Professor: Dr. Roberto Gilardi, author of the book, BC already Lecturer University of Trieste, Expert in training processes, Counsellor Professional
"If a mother has the time available, with an only child, can dedicate it in every way to this new person, when circumstances surrounding the second son is facing a change: time and energy resource can no longer be "dedicated" but must be split. It is not possible to follow and comply in all respects the first as the second child should be placed limits must be established certain rules of behavior.
This is one of the changes that in many cases gives rise to feelings of jealousy in his brother major, who feels "taken off" time and attention to himself, almost a loss.
The rules then become a necessity, especially in the social sphere, while in more than two. Even if the delivery is widespread "personal rules" (That's why it is said that a person has a wild life), the focus of this book are the social rules, those that are necessary, as already stated, to the mere fact of living together, sharing sites, places and things.
The word "need" presents us with the motivation factor, not only the construction and definition of the rules, but above all their respect: "It takes a reason. " From "Parents in good standing" Roberto Gilardi Ed La Meridiana, 2008
information almost daily television news show that behavioral and discipline problems. Needless to deny: the problem is, it is overt, and not simply referring to acts of bullying that are more or less described in detail.
The responsibility for this situation can not be "saddled" with a single cause or educational agency. What happens in general is the phenomenon of delegating blame for what "others" do not do. The school therefore in many cases, "accuses the family" be the main culprit. The family points to the school as a place where they have "lost the references of the past." Psychologists often accuse the family and school not to comply in a manner appropriate to their educational function. And the more you have, and so forth.
that this mutual accusations are or are not foundations of truth from facts, it is impossible to know. The fact is that the "processes" and attributions of blame in this area, nobody needs, much less to solve, or at least address the critical issues.
It is therefore to recover a shared thoughts, guidelines and solid part of the social system, leaving the dynamics of conflict and self-reference, in which everyone thinks they hold the truth. Build more than destroy, or search for suspects.
The evening aims to be a moment of shared reflection on the subject, consisting of structured guidance and concrete examples, a small gesture to restore the credibility of the adult world.
Why participate?
The question is not random, and the answer is not obvious. Just as "We need a reason" to talk about rules and above all respect, we also need a reason to participate in an evening, a meeting proposed by the School, the City, a Library, an association. We are now
"bombarded" by proposals, advertising, initiatives that promise, providing that guarantee. Choosing is not easy. Especially
choose to take time away from their personal or family life. The phenomenon of the decline in participation in the initiatives that the school holds is clear, relevant to the Nursery School, close to zero at the beginning of high school.
The motivation of children in going to school, in many cases, follows the same pattern: high, full of enthusiasm, joy and excitement at the early, full of fatigue, boredom, frustration in the past.
the aspects of reasoning about everyone, even us adults. Although our motivation in going to work, performing our "homework" is made up of daily highs and lows. Meet all the fatigue, boredom, to make things simple "sense of duty." So why participate?
First, because, in terms of behavior problems, alone is not going anywhere, not if it leaves. On social phenomena, such as bullying or other action "must" be structured in social terms. According
because the comparison helps. The most isolated people, who must make choices and decisions always alone, are the most confused. Third
the evening because it will not be boring, talk about our life, our social relationships with their children or with students, of our difficulties and our hopes. Fourth
because sometimes in life you can even smile. Not everything is hard.
the afternoons due to lack of teachers who supervise the children during meal time. 
